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RakeDaLeaves
03-04-2008, 02:45 PM
So i went out of town this weekend... i told this girl i know i was heading into town and she was like we should hang out. I was like sure we can do that. Ive always thought she was beautiful and had a great heart. Well she calls me and tells me her boyfriend(fiance) is being a dick to her but wants to know if she can come with me tonight bar hoppin/club. I was like sure. Well we go out get drunk etc. She was pretty much grindin me when we danced and basically holding me etc. I didnt take anything by it. Well next day, her man trys to play it off, he pulls some ****ed up shit at dinner. Gets home at 6am drunk and trys to break down her apt door, she slaps him and he grabbed her into a headlock and stuff her face into the bed. We go to lunch the next day and told me everything, she was suprised to where i took her too. Anyhow we hang out for awhile. Drops me off and says she will come back in an hour due to her having to do some cleaning and we can go watch a movie etc. She calls me 30 minutes later and tells me, im tired of this, he is a jerk, blah blah. She grabbed all his shit and dumped out into the living room and left him a note and voice message to get his shit and its over. We hung out for awhile and me and her friend tried to make her feel good and realize it wasnt worth it with him anymore. This is like the 100th time. She is a good girl, smart, honest, loyal, etc. Well i come home and i call her and she is crying and crying on how hard it is and she wants him and doesnt want to be empty. Well yesterday she calls me in tears and doesnt know what to do, he got all his stuff and it seems its happening. I drove all the way to her... tried to help her out, listened and gave the best advice i could for her. I told her to fight if she really felt like she loved him but if she got hurt again, she knew it wasnt worth it. After being there for a good amount i time, i drove back home. As of today she is going to try and work things out with him... this guy cheated on her with the girl next door and is mistreating her but she stands by :( I told her, if she really loved him to fight for what she believed in but she felt she was already in too deep. I told her to do what i couldnt do and that was fight

I like her. I would fight for her but this isnt my time or place. This is the kind of girl who will do anything for her man, and put him first before herself. She is great to be around and always has a great smile. Just hope the best for her with this guy.

cliffnotes:
- go out of town
- hang out with a girl i known
- girls bf is a jackass to her 70% of the time now
- she leaves him and kicks him out the aptment
- her friend and i try to help her out
- i come back home and she is crying and crying that she is empty and its too hard.
- i drive back & everything is gone of his, we talk
- she couldnt do it, got back with him because of love

I wont post her picture, am better then that. So dont ask please. Now am stuck with the one-itis for her :(
RakeDaLeaves
03-04-2008, 03:16 PM
The dreaded "One-Itis," otherwise known as the ailment of liking that "One Special Girl" and wanting her more than any other woman on earth. A want so intense, that it's actually painful.
passin thru
03-04-2008, 03:59 PM
to hell with it , he had his chance now take yours
RakeDaLeaves
03-04-2008, 04:15 PM
to hell with it , he had his chance now take yours

i would but she is too in love with him... plus she lives 2-3 hrs away... i dont mind the drive. She just really loves this guy, her friends and i have tried but she keeps going back... i dont know what it is but its something pulling her in :(
passin thru
03-04-2008, 04:22 PM
thats cool, just dont miss out on what could be the "one" they are to few and far between these days
RakeDaLeaves
03-04-2008, 04:51 PM
thats cool, just dont miss out on what could be the "one" they are to few and far between these days

yah i know what you mean.. this girl is someone id date/relationship. She is honest, very sweet, caring, respectful etc. She gives 110 percent and has good morals. She doesnt give up and fights for what she believes in. Just so hard to see her be so unhappy!
Brandi
03-04-2008, 06:23 PM
The hardest thing is to stand by and watch somebody you care about make the same bad choices. Her relationship with him is unhealthy, and although she sees it she follows the same familiar path. They have probably been together for a while which makes it more comfortable, and the idea of being alone is harder than putting up with the bullshit. All you can do is be a friend and if she has the strength to one day move on you'll be there. idk just what i was thinking.
Davey
03-04-2008, 07:19 PM
Personally I dont think you have a chance because you treat her nice and show her respect. I've seen wasy too many nice girls who hook up with jerks over and over again. The only person that can change that is her. Us nice guys are boring I guess.
Little Britches
03-04-2008, 09:50 PM
becareful tho you dont want the rebound girl either.
Davey
03-04-2008, 11:38 PM
becareful tho you dont want the rebound girl either.

Sometimes rebound girls are fun... :lurker
zepfanforlife
03-05-2008, 08:20 AM
Rake that Little man is a loser he already lost her it is all a matter of time before he is gone.

If u want her Tell her:P
RakeDaLeaves
03-05-2008, 11:33 AM
The hardest thing is to stand by and watch somebody you care about make the same bad choices. Her relationship with him is unhealthy, and although she sees it she follows the same familiar path. They have probably been together for a while which makes it more comfortable, and the idea of being alone is harder than putting up with the bullshit. All you can do is be a friend and if she has the strength to one day move on you'll be there. idk just what i was thinking.

Well she has been through a lot, and i do mean a lot with other people. Her last real big relationship was of 4 years and well the guy cheated on her. She isnt scared of being alone she says but i think its her self esteem to why she went back again. I know how hard it is and i just hate seeing her put herself through this and not be happy at times. I understand what you mean tho.

Personally I dont think you have a chance because you treat her nice and show her respect. I've seen wasy too many nice girls who hook up with jerks over and over again. The only person that can change that is her. Us nice guys are boring I guess.

I dont think i'll have a chance due to her living like 2-3 hrs away. I mean i'd do it for her BUT i dont think she will see me that way. You never know, maybe she will realize there is someone who can make her happy etc one day and it be me :D . Girls sometimes want a challenge.

Rake that Little man is a loser he already lost her it is all a matter of time before he is gone.

If u want her Tell her:P

I told her already i liked her for who she was. And that she reminded me of myself and what i did. That i liked her for the type of girl she was, and it was rare to see a girl do so much for someone. Maybe just maybe, if they do part again... i will step into the picture and make her happy.

I would like a chance if i was granted that.
ravenmetal
03-06-2008, 05:49 AM
Sometimes rebound girls are fun... :lurker

:D :D