When She Just Wants To Mark You

[I'mhereforCass]

Goddamnit I REALLY fucking hate when an ex won't leave me alone

Why on Earth does a woman says that she wants your friendship and then goes to talk shit about you to your current girlfriend?

What do you think? Does she think that I wouldn't know she is talking shit?

Does She think she has the "right" to fuck up a new relationship?

It's funny because she is seeing someone else too so, What The Hell is the matter with her? Like the title says, Does she think that I'm branded as "her property" o something?

Wouldn't be much easier to accept the facts and just walk away?
Live your life and let live...

Any advice? because I'm just getting more and more pissed...:upurs:

[Spinnr1]

only advice I have is illegal.

[ravenmetal]

only advice I have is illegal.

:5:

[Spinnr1]

Raven feels me

[don143]

You can't control what other people do, only how you react to what they chose to do.

There are two choices. Talk shit about her so bad, so that she might react by not talking about you anymore. Or, ignore it.

If you are truly over her, why give a shit what she says? If what she is saying is just shit talking, then that's what you should tell your current girlfriend.

I know this advice is not easy to follow, and it's blunt. But there is only one reason why someone like her would do what she is doing and that is to try and get a reaction from you. There is great power in not reacting, or reacting differently than what she wants. Talking shit about her would only stoop to her level and keep it going. Don't react, deal with damage control with your new girl as it comes, and your ex is powerless.

IMO, of course.

Good luck, I hope your situation improves! :)

[Brandi]

one bourbon, one scotch, and one beer,

[Spinnr1]

There are two choices. Talk shit about her so bad, so that she might react by not talking about you anymore.


Or she could stab you!

[ravenmetal]

Raven feels me

:shifty:

[Dirty Girl]

You can't control what other people do, only how you react to what they chose to do.

There are two choices. Talk shit about her so bad, so that she might react by not talking about you anymore. Or, ignore it.

If you are truly over her, why give a shit what she says? If what she is saying is just shit talking, then that's what you should tell your current girlfriend.

I know this advice is not easy to follow, and it's blunt. But there is only one reason why someone like her would do what she is doing and that is to try and get a reaction from you. There is great power in not reacting, or reacting differently than what she wants. Talking shit about her would only stoop to her level and keep it going. Don't react, deal with damage control with your new girl as it comes, and your ex is powerless.

IMO, of course.

Good luck, I hope your situation improves! :)

I actually agree with this approach. I mean really, why should you care what she says now? She no longer means anything to you, right? And if your new lady friend doesn't understand that then you don't need her either.

DS

[Nikki]

I know this thread is a little old, but....

How long we you and your ex together? How did it end? Did you end it? Did she end it? Was is a "bad" break up?

I know a lot of people say "just ignore it" or "she should just walk away if she doesnt care and is seeing someone else" and that "you shouldnt care what she says about you"

But the truth of the matter is that it's harder than it sounds. I was with my ex for almost 5 years. I dont want to be with him ever again or even be "friends" and am happier than I have ever been with Mumz and my family.

Unfortunately the part that is beyond anyone's control is the feelings that are still there, and im not saying feelings as in "still want to be with you feelings" but more like hurt, anger, animosity, etc. Though it's been over 2 years since my ex and I were together, and the things that happened during our relationship and after our break up still piss me off and when I hear that he has been talking about me or whatever it pisses me off. Same goes for when he hears that I was talking about him. He knows that what i've been saying is truth but he doesnt want other people to know that, I know that what he's saying about me is bull but I still dont want him saying shit like that and making people believe things that arent true.

Even though we are both with other people now and have different lives and shouldnt care, it's hard to not get angry.

In your case, it sounds like even though she is with someone else, there are some feelings there, either jealousy that she isnt with you any longer (even if she says she doesnt want to be) so she feels the need to talk shit to your girlfriend and try to mess things up, or it could be that for some reason she wants you to not be happy. I dont know the details of your relationship with you ex so I cant really tell you why she might be doing these things. Im just throwing the ideas out there, hope it makes some sort of sense.

I would have to agree though that even though it's hard to not react when she's telling your girlfriend shit that she really has no right to involve herself in, try your best to ignore it, eventually she'll realize that her attempts at destroying your relationship arent working and she'll give up. But, if your girlfriend cant ignore what your ex is saying and is not willing to discuss the "issues" with you and then take your word for it, then you dont need her either.

[Dirty Girl]

Amen Nikki

DS

[Madden]

Everyone always told me when my ex and I broke up that it was going to be really hard. But the reality is.... It was one of the most terrible feelings and experiences I have ever been through. I was emotionally upset and physically sick. The truth is you will never get over all of the stuff that happened. My ex would like for us to work it out but I can't get over all the horrible things he did and all the times that he made me cry. My heart was broke and I never felt like it would be whole again. I still get upset sometimes and I still cry when I look back at what we could have been if all of the terrible things that happen never would have occured. I though I was over him, im not but I've realized that there are some people that you love but are better off not together. Even after everything I dont think I will ever be completely over all of it. It's even harder once someone else is in the picture (new boyfriend or new girlfriend). I think that your ex is jealous, whether she wants you back or not she is unhappy with everything that is going on between you too. Personally I think she needs to keep her nose to her damn self and bug off. I can understand that in most breakups there are usually hard feelings you just have to be the bigger person and figure out what is the most appropriate way to handle and express them. Thats what Best friends are for, to listen and be there. I hope that you and your new girlfriend get pass all the drama and everything gets better. Eventually she will realize that she needs to stop and hopefully both of you can move on and be happy.

I got a little deep there, I hope no body minds.....

XOXO
Madden

[I'mhereforCass]

Thank You all for the advices, I appreciate you took the time to read my weirdo problem and write advices.

Things are better now, I love my girlfriend and that's all that matters to me now. Thank you all for the good karma. Speaking of karma, I'll karma you all for the trouble :)

[DarkBard]

I agree with Nikki, it been my experience that when people are hurting inside, it's very easy to turn to our animalistic side & lash out to hurt that which causes our pain. Even if we feel bad about it later when our rational side gets back in control, we still tend to do it. Though females are a little more prone to this as they are in my opinion more in touch with their emotions & heart than men tend to be as a general rule. All that social BS of how males are not to be emotional BS crap thats taught to us as we're growing up I guess.
<---- I'm rambling, don't mind me, only an observer, never been a participant.